Writing the perfect dating profile description is not as hard as one may think. Many people are excited at the prospect of trying online dating, but they are frozen into inaction due to information overload. The problem, at its core, is that people just don’t know where to begin, particularly when it comes to creating an eye-catching and engaging profile.
This guide creates a template that anyone can use to fully express themselves in unique, exciting and memorable ways. Ultimately, this guide focuses the template in a few key areas.
The main themes of this template include:
- Knowing Yourself and What You Want
- Demonstrating Why a Reader Should Care to Read the Profile
- Highlighting Who You Are
- Showing What You Are Looking For
- Being Unapologetically Honest with Your Writing
- Making a “Call to Action”
So, without further ado, here is your online dating profile template.
1. The Pre-Writing Phase
Before you even begin filling out your dating profile, know the message you want to convey to your readers. For Apostolics, this entails making your views clear in a meaningful and definitive way. If something is important to you, make sure it is in your profile. Keeping your intentions locked away in your head does no good for you or your readers.
Most importantly, know what you are passionate about, and then be committed to displaying those passions in your profile. Simply put, “show” someone that you are passionate rather than telling them about your passion. As an example, avoid saying generic things like “I love to cook.” Instead, try something that “shows” your level of passion, such as “enjoying great food and even better company are just two of the many reasons I love to spend time in the kitchen.”
Note how you are painting a picture of who you are when you write in this fashion. When you just say “I like cooking”, it doesn’t paint a picture; the reader is left guessing as to what exactly it is that you love about it. So, keeping this in mind, the entire template to follow hinges on mastering what it is that you want to convey, and then “showing” your potential matches what you want to convey.
2. The “Why You Should Care” Template
Think of this part of the template as the catchy hook of your favorite song. Simply put, you want something memorable that is going to make a reader remember your profile, and more importantly, remember you. That way, when you send a message, you already have a built-in hook that makes a response more likely.
The best way to create a hook through a dating profile is with humor. While it may seem to be difficult to be funny, it really isn’t. For starters, make a joke about what you do, although do so in a way that avoids self-deprecation.
For example, I’m a writer, and before meeting my girlfriend of one year now, I referenced that with humor in my profile. After mentioning what I do, I wrote something to the effect of “Shakespearean sonnets are the future of pick-up lines. You heard it here first.”
Admittedly, you might bristle at finding that line a bit cheesy. More importantly, it’s unique and it’s memorable, and you’d be amazed at the amount of messages I got from women jokingly “requesting” a sonnet. In short, be witty and engaging. For template purposes, make a witty joke about what you do in a way that makes you seem fun and eye-catching, and you’ll be amazed at the quality responses that you get.
3. The “Who Am I” Template
All the wit in the world does little if you say nothing about who you actually are. For example, when I first started out, I made a fake “top 10” list of my beliefs, and I got a few messages about how funny the list was. Still, I didn’t take the time to express who I was, what my faith and beliefs were and so on.
As a result, I wasn’t getting great matches for me, and more importantly, those women weren’t getting to know the real me. While humor and wit is essential, so is information about you. There is no need to be overly wordy when describing yourself, but someone shouldn’t have to ask you what you do in a message. Not only is this a waste of valuable time, it also destroys rapport, a notion that is key to meeting in person.
4. The “Who and What I’m Looking For” Template
This is where you filter out bad matches. Nothing is worse than a desperate man, woman or desperate anything really. While it may sting your pride to get fewer matches, know that they are higher quality matches as a result of your screening. Have the self-respect to let everyone know right off the bat what you need and desire in a Godly match.
For template purposes, simply fill in the blanks. I am looking for a match that is “ ………“, and I need a match who is “……”.
5. The “Unapologetic Honesty” Template
This template is where you are unapologetically you, a way of saying this is where you air out any “need to know” information, even if it can be difficult to do so. Too many online daters try to hide or obfuscate potential hindrances to dating such as a recent weight gain or children.
As an example, imagine you are a widower with a child. Don’t act like you don’t, first of all. Nobody appreciates deception, particularly in online dating where the vetting process is already difficult enough. Also, don’t be defiantly obstinate, so avoid saying something like “I have a child, and you need to be ok with that to date me.”
Rather, frame your life and your experiences positively, offering something like “I am the proud parent of an incredible son, and I’m looking to find a great person that is open to eventually being an incredible influence in my child’s life.”
No matter what your life experiences might be, frame them positively, unapologetically and if it was a previous vice or sin, demonstrate how God has helped you grow into a more reflecting, sincere and honest person. In this way, your profile will not only increase your matches, but it might even serve as a witness for the transformative character of God.
6. The “So Now What” Template
Finally, you aren’t making a profile to message strangers endlessly on the Internet. The goal is to meet. Prime potential matches for this real-world inevitability with a subtle, yet assertive call to action. For men especially, timidity does you few favors, so be assertive even when constructing the dating profile.
As an example, towards the end of your profile, say something like “If you like what you’ve read, send me a message and let’s grab coffee (insert alternative favorite dating choice here) sometime and see where this goes.” In so doing, you make it clear that your intentions are to meet.
Following these templates will enhance your dating profile, and ought to introduce you to some incredible Godly matches. If you find your match and found this advice helpful, pay it forward and help a friend. We’re all in this together, so let’s help each other on the journey.