Can Apostolic Singles Be Unequally Yoked?

When an Apostolic begins to look for a life partner, he or she is – or should – look for someone who is also Apostolic. If you do not understand the reasons for this, that will be discussed in another article. This article focuses on a different question: Can Apostolic Singles Be Unequally Yoked?

Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness? What harmony is there between Christ and Belial? What does a believer have in common with an unbeliever? What agreement is there between the temple of God and idols? For we are the temple of the living God. As God has said: “I will live with them and walk among them, and I will be their God, and they will be my people.” Therefore come out from them and be separate, says the Lord. Touch no unclean thing, and I will receive you. I will be a Father to you, and you will be my sons and daughters, says the Lord Almighty. -2 Corinthians 6:14-18

The above scripture makes it clear that when two people are unequally yoked that it is not pleasing to God. The mistake that some make, however, is thinking that just because someone goes to an Apostolic church or calls themselves Apostolic that they are automatically going to be on the same page.

If you take a moment to think about this, you will realize it’s not the case. Next Sunday, take a look around your church. Are you on the exact same page when it comes to holiness, level of dedication to services and special events and other important issues as every other brother or sister in the room? Of course not! It’s not a big deal if your personal convictions about holiness are not exactly the same as the person sitting next you in church. It IS, however, a big deal if those convictions are the not the same as those of the person that you are dating.

Remember that you shouldn’t be dating just to have something to do on a Friday night. You are dating to find your life partner. For that reason, anyone who would not make a good life partner for you also does not make a good choice of a person to date for you. It doesn’t matter how pretty, handsome, funny or smart they are. If one of you is more dedicated and passionate about the things of God than the other, it’s not a good match.

Let’s be clear that this doesn’t mean one person is BETTER than the other. If one ox is a certain height and the other is much shorter, that doesn’t mean one ox is better than the other, it’s just means they are unequal. For each of those animals, there will be a match, just not with each other. The same is true for two Apostolics who may not see things the exact same way. It’s not about feeling superior; it’s just about finding a good match.

If a woman feels the draw to be at church every single time the doors are open, the best match for her is not going to be the guy who only comes to church on Sunday. That doesn’t mean he’s not a good Christian. It doesn’t mean he isn’t filled with Holy Ghost and doing God’s work, but it does mean he isn’t a perfect match for someone who feels a bit deeper dedication to the House of God.

There are many wonderful Apostolic men and women who would not be equally yoked with you. The only way that you can have the absolute best that God has for you is to wait for someone who is a spiritual match.