Finding an Apostolic “soulmate” is an often asked question
I received an email with the following question today:
“Well this is gonna seem strange, but here it goes, when asking God to send me a wife is it better to just say, ‘God I put it in Your Hands’ and let God pick her for me, not doing anything but wait, or should I pray and ask God to direct me to her?”
This was my response:
What a great question and one that I have had in the past. Finding my “soulmate” in my 20’s and into my 30’s was a struggle, I didn’t find my wife until I was 34. Many have the opinion that God would send the person to you when you are ready. Here’s what I think, I don’t believe there is a “perfect” person that God has specifically chosen for us. That would imply that God makes personal decisions without our input, and He just doesn’t do that. We are a free will people.
Now with that said, God does give us guidance on who would be a compatible mate and who would not.
To to answer your question, here’s what I did.
- I got very clear about what I wanted in a wife. I spent time writing down my wants and desires. I then sorted them into must haves, (example…she must be Apostolic), and nice to haves. This way it wouldn’t be a deal breaker if she didn’t fit every single detail of my wants and desires.
- Once I got very clear, I prayed that God would prepare me to receive such a woman. I had some areas that I needed to improve in to sustain a relationship with the “woman of my dreams.”
- Since I wasn’t planning on robbing any cradles, I prayed that God would help her (knowing she was already on the planet) be prepared for me. This comforted me during my search as I knew she was some where and I just needed to find her.
- I started looking. I happened to take looking to another level, in that I created a website to find her (Apostolic Singles Network). ASN may not be right for everyone, but it worked for me and many dear friends that I have. I met Kristin about 1 year later and married her 6 months after that.
Now in the looking, know that there are many wonderful Apostolic women in this world. Many would be a suitable bride. Just remember, that you aren’t looking for a needle in a hay stack, you are looking for a woman that would be a great friend and one that, after having spent some time with her, you don’t want to live without.
I really pray this helps.
Thanks for the question. It was a really great one.